things like “romanticization” and “fetishization” are fictional words and fictional concepts which are only in existence to belittle others
people find passion in what they find passion in, be it suicide, a mental illness, a gender, a time period, a concept; whatever. it isn’t any of your business. a person can deem something beautiful no matter how awful or disturbing whatever-it-is happens to be in reality or to another individual. they aren’t hurting anyone
the same goes for sexual arousal. people are turned on by different things. so long as people (or other living things) aren’t being hurt (“offended” doesn’t count), then what’s the harm?
let us down from our high horses